How my son trained me.
The majority of us have pictures in our minds – pictures of how it really should be… For instance we imagine how it is to become a parent. “A baby is comfortably sleeping in a baby stroller while I’m strolling the streets of the neighborhood, indulging in a good cup of chamomile tea at neighborhood coffee shop or looking at sales at the shopping mall with one of the friends”. This is one of many pictures I got in my imagination of what it is like to have a baby . Here’s yet another picture: “A little oneis serenely nursing and drowsing to his day nap. Then I put him in his bassinet and fully utilize couple of hours-by cooking a hottest dish, cleaning our place and learning Spanish with the innovative language application very recently acquired”. Ok, and lastly – another image I got in my head: “Right after having great time at our friends’ house our tired newborn falls asleep in the car when we’re going back home”. We all have got a belief of how life will be just after we have a baby, and next a newborn arrives… and introduce us to a completely different life perspective! Welcome to reality – the reality of having a newborn!
I did not create an idea of a baby blissfully napping in a stroller from nowhere – I have witnessed it numerous times. I was aware that little ones did scream and woke up at nighttime, but I had definitely considered walks with a child as a quiet time for a new mother, a chance for her to unwind while clean air and motion provided the ideal environment for a baby to sleep. Okay my son proved it wrong during the 1st “going out” we had!
Let me tell you how our walks would look like. First, I had to get him to sleep by holding in my arms and walking; after that I would slip him into his baby winter outwear then put his beanie on. Well I had to do it quite gently and quietly. Then a second practically unattainable challenge was to place him in the stroller without wakening. I regularly was ineffective at that not because I wasn’t careful enough. I had perfected the skill of placing down my sleeping boy to excellence but despite all that he would get up! Considering that he was now dressed up for the walk I would take the weeping little one out. I didn’t even hope he’d settle down in the stroller! I’d have to walk while holding him till he’s sleeping and then take a chance by placing him into the stroller once again. In case that I was fortunate and he would not get up, then I got myself may be 20-max 30 minutes. I used to stroll neighboring avenues making sure I didn’t go away from my house. As soon as my newborn awakened he realized he is in the stroller he screamed and I learned it was the end of the walk-not anything would calm him down. Nine months have gone after his birth and my boy is still not thrilled about staying in the baby stroller-now for different excuses except for when he’s a newborn. He trained me properly and I know that I should not go away too far from our place…
The identical picture was with daytime sleep. My hubby and I came to realization that without lulling our newborn wouldn’t go to sleep. He would weep, he’d be irritable, he would be hyper- these were the signs- time to rock him to sleep. Rocking became our second nature which obviously resulted in several rewards. Our son would relax faster if I had him in the sling. No matter how devotedly he fought it, sleep would overpower him eventually. Well, rocking our baby to sleep was only half of the problem. Additional part was much more challenging – trying to keep him resting while laying down. Placing him down – regardless of how adept my partner and I became at that – not ever was our forte! Our baby still woke up when we did that; that is why breastfeeding came in handy! Breastfeeding my little one when he was almost sleepingIvery sleepy helped to further soothe him down. I realized that first I had to sway and settle him down as a way to get him eat! Moral grasped: I should forget about cleaning the house, trying a new recipe or mastering an another language while he is sleeping. I have to be beside him so he sleeps.
Another lesson that my boyfriend and I learned the hard way is that we should not ever go somewhere by car when our baby is cranky. I heard it a lot that moody and crying infants would quickly calm down and nap while being soothed by the car motion. It was not true with our boy. Absolutely nothing would get him stop crying when he’s cranky but instead of being in his mom’s arms he he realized he was placed in the car seat. He bowled if something really terrible happened. He cried so I would believe that it is brutally uncomfortable in his car-seat or something’s seriously troubling him. It came down to simple thing: he would not nap in his car seat. My partner and I learned another message and chose to say “no” to almost all celebrations which happens later than 3 pm. Not a very popular result one might say… But I am open to make that temporary lifestyle shift to have a joyful child and to hold my own sanity too!
Seeing all the Approaches that my spouse and I discovered through the first twelve months and all the daily life shifts that we’ve made, I joke by saying that our son trained me properly. On another hand, my parenthood adventure only shows that I should never ever anticipate that all things would be the way I feel they SHOULD be. This basic reality what isn’t relatively easy to acknowledge for a controlling person like myself. I have been told often that “your world completely changes after you have a baby”.
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